Thursday, May 26, 2011


This year seems to have been a big one for storms across the southeast. We had another one last night that kept me up late watching the weather radar. Straight line winds up to 70 mph came through Middle Tennessee. No tornadoes thankfully like those that ripped apart Alabama a couple weeks ago or in Joplin, Missouri. Our home and yard didn't see much damage at all but trees are down all over and my sister-in-law's family is without power. We're storing their freezer food in our freezers until they have power again...I wonder if they would even know if they were missing that ice cream...

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Out With Daddy

There's an assumption that so many people make when your the father out with the kids. The store clerk stocking shelves tries to be friendly and says some comment like "Are the kids with daddy today?" or "are you babysitting today?" I try not to be offended since obviously the clerk has no clue how we are living our lives and running our family.

My response the last time this happened was:
"Nope, I'm the daddy everyday." 

For some reason people assume that just because you're the dad that you are not a primary caregiver of the kids. They assume automatically that the role of the main parent is that of the mother and the dad just is a supporting role if there at all. Being out with daddy is just as normal as being out with mommy - at least it should be.

The opposite isn't true either. I may be the one who stays at home with the kids, feeds them, gets them dressed for school, gets them ready for swimming lessons, cooks dinner, get them ready for bed, etc. but I don't do it alone. My wife is right there with me. It's a team effort.

I suppose the view in the eyes of the store clerks is due to a presumption of a "normal" idea of the family. One mom, one dad, and two kids. The dad works, the mom raises the kids, and the kids are the kids. (Shocker there huh?) But really is there ever any such thing as "normal?" Back when the family was born and raised on the farm, before this thing known as suburbia happened, everyone was raised together. Everyone helped out around the house - family members had to, just to get by. We're extremely privileged today to be able to have a "normal" life aren't we?

The fact is the family is a joint effort, parenthood is a joint effort, and neither parent is primary. Both are integral to the life of the child and to think otherwise just shouldn't be "normal."

Well, I've Finally Done It!

After several years f this stay-at-home dad things I've finally started a blog about the day to day issues concerning being a stay at home dad. Some of this blog is personal, some is general, some is random, and who knows what the rest will be? For years I've been writing about gardening on another blog and I'm still passionate about that subject but there are so many things out there to talk about related the most important area of my life - fatherhood.

If you enjoy what I'm talking about I hope you'll continue to follow along!